However, no matter how good of a vibe you got going, she will still expect you to lead if you are to have a sexual relationship, you would still have to be able to take care of the little tests she throughs your way and not collapse in order to save your relationship.
Everything might be going well and then all of a sudden she might pull back and say you are so annoying! You always provoke me, and say these stupid things. I don’t think this is going to work out.
Or she will tease you based on your appearance, the money that you earn, personal hygiene. She might ignore you for a moment, etc. etc.
If you want to have fun with this you can over exaggerate.
Say she calls you out, Are you gay?
You might respond like, “No way! How did you know? I guess it’s not that hard to realize when I had three guys this morning. All at once.” Through in some gesticulation and you will have a fun time.
But the core of the so-called shit tests is that she wants you to see who you are, under the sharade of the moment.
Best is just to not react to them.
You are leading, just keep doing what you are doing, if she gives you “I have to get up early in the morning, I can’t go with you!” Just say “Yes, I understand.” Smile, kiss her, slap her ass, and keep going. “Who says we are going to my place? I’m taking you behind this dumpster.”
If she really pulls back, saying a hard NO, you need to calibrate.
It’s either not the time, she doesn’t trust you, or she really does have a thing and can’t go with you. This is rare, maybe a 10% chance that it will happen, but if it’s a real hard no, don’t take it personally, that’s life.
Stay and chat if you want, if not let her be your wing for meeting other girls or if you feel the connection, just take the number, schedule a date and move on. It’s all good.
It’s always a good thing to trust your own principles.
If you think you should have sex on the first date, by all means, go for it. If you think it’s too soon, nobody can tell you you are wrong.
It’s your life.
I always waited until I got to a certain level of intimacy with a girl. Sometimes it took 2 dates, sometimes 3, sometimes more. The point is that’s what I wanted.
The point of this guide is to get what you want.
Someone who will suit you like a glove.
But for this to happen we first need to try a bunch of gloves. “Perfect” might be a myth, but we will eventually find someone who suits us and who we are content with, even if she is not perfect, because neither are we. and that’s cool.
You have to understand, we are all a little retarded, in our own ways. That’s fine, it’s what makes life fun. If you try to repress that part of you, you just take away from your authenticity.
Same goes for your sexuality, and kinkiness, and humor, and food taste, and taste in music etc.
As long as you don’t impose your wants and beliefs onto a girl, she might even do something she doesn’t really like to please you. As you should reciprocate.
Sometimes you will have the same kink, great. Sometimes she is not going to resonate with you at all. That’s also fine, just keep in mind that everything is on a spectrum and the more extreme you get in you wishes and desires, the less likely most girls are going to resonate with you.
This doesn’t mean you should stop looking for the one that does, it just means you will have to look in different places, with more girls and it might take longer. But you will get there.