Let’s dive deep into what goes inside of a girls brain when you approach.
First of all it all depends on her mood or temperature sort of speaking. It dictates in what manner you should approach and is crucial to your success. Understanding this alone will bring you the results that you want.
Let’s say a temperature can be 0-10. 0 being she just woke up, feels groggy because she haven’t had her first coffee yet, and she doesn’t want to do anything. 4-5 is normal day to day working temperature, where you can easily approach in the normal manner and talk with her as all other people she meets during the day.
Then there is the 8-9 that you can see girls experiencing in the clubs, concerts, festivals, etc. They are singing, dancing, drinking. Not caring about tomorrow.
Laughing and teasing each other, talking to random people. With these girls you can be much more open, you can yell at her in a fun way, like Come here! You! Yes You! You can pick her up and carry her around, you can do whatever you want basically as long as it is fueling the fun she is having.
A detail to note is that a lot of guys think they should match the girls energy, or temperature, and it’s not true. You have your energy and temperature, and a good part of leading is being true to that.
As long as you are there with good intention and there to give value, you can be a 4 and she can be a 9 eventually she will bring you a little bit up and you will bring her a bit down but you will find your common ground. Deffinitely try it.
The only time she won’t do it is if you are there to take something from her, and that brings us to the concept of value in social dynamics. Value in a logical sense is something useful. In a social sense it’s about the feeling.
Among friends from your school or university you will naturally gravitate to the people that make you feel good, but in cold approaching it is a little different.
Ideally, you will be yourself, talk normally, introduce yourself, find people you like and spend a good time with them.
During the night you would talk with different people, and instead of you being this “social” dude talking to everyone, you would just find guys or girls you vibe with and spend as much time as you want with them, then move on, or not, it’s your life.
The faster you can understand yourself and what you like, the faster you will enjoy this process.
What if I told you that this will relief your social anxiety, confusion and any symptoms of light depression, Of course if you happen to have a clinical diagnosis, professional help is what you should seek, what I’m talking about here are common issues in all of us.
We either don’t want to talk to people because we feel we will be judged, or we don’t feel like putting on a mask, or laughing at what we don’t find funny, or don’t want to experience rejection, or come up weird or whatever.
However, what we don’t see is that most people feel this way, they are strange and quirky, and imperfect, and they all have their problems. The faster you understand that we are all the same, the better.
Coming back to the value concept. Until you find your humor, and your unique way of expression, try everything and with everyone.
Approach every girl, even the ones you never thought would have anything to do with you, or you with them. Try different humor, dark humor, jokes, absurd, situational, anything.
After a 100 hours of testing, you will not only have gotten a girlfriend, but will have found what kind of a person you really are. What are your strengths and weaknesses, what you are good at what not. What kind of people you like, and most importantly what kind of girls.
If you don’t have a girlfriend often it can be frustrating, so you want to get any girlfriend just to fill the hole.
However when you have a choice, you tend to make a preference. By the end of your 100 hours most girls would want to be with you and so you will get to choose the best one, the one who fits you the most.
This means you will have to offer value and this means thinking about what will be a win for the girl for that moment.